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“There was never a night or a problem that could defeat sunrise or hope.’’ (Bernard Williams)
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard the above saying throughout my life, and how much it used annoy me, yet I had no idea what it really meant, until very recently. The first time, I really heard it, was the year I was raped. Someone said:
“Maryanne, no matter how dire your problems seem, the sun will always rise and set, that should give you comfort!”
This really infuriated me. How in the world was this supposed to comfort me, let alone anyone else?
To be honest I lost my cool and gave that person a piece of my mind. In my opinion that had to be the most condescending thing I had heard. I mean, if you really think about it, what does it even mean, when someone says the sun will always rise and set?
Were they trying to say that my problems weren’t big or important enough?
In hindsight, I not only understand what Mr Williams meant, I’m a walking analogy of all the different variations of his saying. Why you ask? Keep reading and I’ll tell you.
Problems are just bumps in the road, they are not everlasting: Anyone who has ever experienced hardship, trauma and to some extent depression, can attest to this. When you’re in a jam, you feel as though the world is about to end and there is nothing you can do to stop it. You forget the good times and only focus on the conundrum you’re in. I’m here to tell you that whatever it is you’re going through, it too will pass. It may not pass today, or tomorrow, or next week, or next month, but it definitely will pass. It took me 6years to overcome the trauma of being raped, but I overcame it. It wasn’t easy and to be honest, you never really get over something that traumatic, but you learn to stop letting it rule and define your life. So like Mr Williams says just as sure as the sun shall rise, so will you overcome you’re problems!
Sunrise means hope: Beloveds, every sunrise brings with it a new beginning and a dazzling ray of hope. I know when you’re in the midst of a difficult situation you lose all hope, especially when you are depressed, you’re overcome by despondency; but the truth is you are not alone, we all go through this feeling but as long as you keep fighting, there is definitely hope. In fact to be honest, it doesn’t matter how horrible the situation is, or how depressed you are, there is ALWAYS HOPE. Let me say that again, THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE.
Secondly, I know from experience when you’re depressed you beat yourself up about opportunities you missed or opportunities you wasted. You convince yourself that you messed up too much, that there is no way you will be able amount to anything, or get into that program or get that job you want, because you don’t deserve it. The truth is, never doesn’t exist, it only exists in your vocabulary. The minute you grace yourself with a little bit of forgiveness, you start to realise how powerful and strong you are. You begin to see that ray of sunshine and hope. Alas! That sun rise you’ve been longing for and were too scared to ask for will help you overcome the darkness in your soul and mind’s eye; just like the sunrise, you’re greatness and destiny can’t be hidden forever. It may take you a little while longer to see it and acknowledge it but once you’re sun rises it can never be subdued!
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